" Etre avec des gens qu’on aime, cela suffit; rêver, leur parler, ne leur parler point, penser à eux, penser à des choses plus indifférentes, mais auprès d’eux, tout est égal. "

- Jean de La Bruyère, Les Caractères (1696)
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Benjamin Franklin devised a list of 13 virtues to live by for as long as possible, in an attempt to “live without committing any fault at any time.”

1/ TEMPERANCE.
Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
2/ SILENCE.
Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
3/ ORDER.
Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
4/ RESOLUTION.
Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
5/ FRUGALITY.
Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
6/ INDUSTRY.
Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
7/ SINCERITY.
Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
8/ JUSTICE.
Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
9/ MODERATION.
Avoid extreams; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
10/ CLEANLINESS.
Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.
11/ TRANQUILITY.
Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
12/ CHASTITY.
Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dulness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
13/ HUMILITY.
Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

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Finding the calm in the chaos
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In 1933, F. Scott Fitzgerald ended a letter to his 11-year-old daughter, Scottie.

Things to worry about:

Worry about courage
Worry about cleanliness
Worry about efficiency
Worry about horsemanship

Things not to worry about:

Don’t worry about popular opinion
Don’t worry about dolls
Don’t worry about the past
Don’t worry about the future
Don’t worry about growing up
Don’t worry about anybody getting ahead of you
Don’t worry about triumph
Don’t worry about failure unless it comes through your own fault
Don’t worry about mosquitoes
Don’t worry about flies
Don’t worry about insects in general
Don’t worry about parents
Don’t worry about boys
Don’t worry about disappointments
Don’t worry about pleasures
Don’t worry about satisfactions

Things to think about:

What am I really aiming at?
How good am I really in comparison to my contemporaries in regard to:

(a) Scholarship
(b) Do I really understand about people and am I able to get along with them?
(c) Am I trying to make my body a useful instrument or am I neglecting it?

With dearest love,

Daddy

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" Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful "

- Sophia Loren

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June 25, 1973

So My Lumps,

You’re off, by God!

I can barely believe it since I am so unaccustomed to anybody leaving me. But reflectively I wonder why nobody did so before. All I care about—honest to God—is that you are happy and I don’t much care who you’ll find happiness with. I mean as long as he’s a friendly bloke and treats you nice and kind. If he doesn’t I’ll come at him with a hammer and clinker. God’s eye may be on the sparrow but my eye will always be on you. Never forget your strange virtues. Never forget that underneath that veneer of raucous language is a remarkable and puritanical LADY. I am a smashing bore and why you’ve stuck by me so long is an indication of your loyalty. I shall miss you with passion and wild regret.

You may rest assured that I will not have affairs with any other female. I shall gloom a lot and stare morosely into unimaginable distances and act a bit—probably on the stage—to keep me in booze and butter, but chiefly and above all I shall write. Not about you, I hasten to add. No Millerinski Me, with a double M. There are many other and ludicrous and human comedies to constitute my shroud.

I’ll leave it to you to announce the parting of the ways while I shall never say or write one word except this valedictory note to you. Try and look after yourself. Much love. Don’t forget that you are probably the greatest actress in the world. I wish I could borrow a minute portion of your passion and commitment, but there you are—cold is cold as ice is ice.

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- Letter from Richard Burton to Elizabeth Taylor